26 Responses to “Lists are dumb (when you’re not on them)”

• Melanie (1 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 6:06 pm

  I cried when I saw my name on that list today; I know, sad, isn’t it? But honestly, aside from two awards, both of which I got from a friend, I have never gotten anything like this before. And that it’s based on my writing, one of my big insecurity areas? Oh, there it goes. I cried.
  I actually wrote a post about this exact same thing, never winning anything, not too long ago. Believe me, I know how you feel.
  (If it’s any consolation, I think you SHOULD have been on that list…)

• Plain Jane Mom (8 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 6:14 pm

  I have never gotten a single award before this week. Frankly, I think it is kind of random

• Karen (2 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 6:43 pm

  Truthfully, I am so new to blogging that I’m still mystified by all the awards that float around, what the rules are, how you know when to give them, who you tell, etc. It’s seems like so much work, like managing technorati. It seems interesting, but then I get there and I’m just freakishly overstimulated. Is there a freakishly overstimulated award?

• table4five on April 9th, 2007 at 7:33 pm

  Melanie-Thank you, and congratulations!

  PJMom-Yes, but it’s a flattering kind of random!

  Karen-HAHAHA! I could SO win the “freakishly overstimulated” award!!

• Chantal (40 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 7:51 pm

  You know, the way I see it, someone is always going to feel left out. Those who don’t get the awards, those who don’t go to BlogHer, those who aren’t on the best blogrolls etc…

  You have to ask yourself why you blog. Do you really do it for the recognition? No. You did it for you. To chronicle your life and connect with others. You get the recognition in the form of comments and support and validation from those you read and those who read you.

  I got my first Perfect Post award last month and I just about shit my pants. I admired others and was thrilled to get mine, but if I hadn’t, I’d still be the same blogger I am now.

  

• Mrs. Chicky (34 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 7:59 pm

  Now, that award (the “Elizabeth” as it should be known. Kinda like the Oscars) is one I would be thrilled to win. Seriously. That award, unlike some of the others, would really mean something.

• table4five on April 9th, 2007 at 8:10 pm

  Chantal- You are absolutely right, which is why I was berating myself for even thinking about it in the first place. And yet, there is part of me that will always look for that validation. And by the way, you totally get an “Elizabeth thinks you ROCK” award.

  Mrs. Chicky-Thank you for that compliment! I will absolutely bestow the “Elizabeth” award on you!

• Karly (14 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 8:34 pm

  Elizabeth!! Darn it! I just got a Thinking Blogger Award and had to give out five to other bloggers and I ALMOST gave one to you and then I didn’t because I thought your blog was “too famous” and you wouldn’t play along. Darn me. Now I feel bad. All the bloggers I chose were ones that I thought would play along, even though I thought others may have deserved it just as much (like So Close, Notes from the Trenches, YOU) but I didn’t think the “big dogs” would play.

  So, if it makes you feel any better, you totally would have gotten one from me except I thought you were too cool for it.

• Izzy (58 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 9:05 pm

  I think we have all felt like that from time to time and you know what? It’s okay to feel sour grapey. I admit to having felt that way many times in my life both in and out of the blog world.

  But Chantal, in her infinite wisdom, hit the nail on the head with her comment.

  The awards are nice but what means more? An award or the support and recognition of those who come here every day? Obviously the latter.

  Congrats on your nomination. I hope you win

• alison on April 9th, 2007 at 9:57 pm

  I don’t have my own blog so I am clueless about these awards. But, I do know that I love your blog, and I’m here reading every day. You deserve an Elizabeth.

• Yv~ (3 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 10:36 pm

  Eh, results not out yet why so many sour grapes here???

• holli (19 comments.) on April 9th, 2007 at 11:12 pm

  Hell’s bells… I’ve never been nominated or won anything. I’ve checked out the blogs of some of the people who I would consider the “big bloggers” and honestly - I don’t manage my time that well. I’m doing good to keep my daughter’s journal going to she knows she was on planet earth and I was there with her. And if it doesn’t suck donkey butt than I’m doing good.

  But I love this post and I agree. If I won the lottery I would be on tv screaming Ed McMahon’s name to the masses. Is he still alive?

  I’ll go vote!

  xoxo

• Suburban Oblivion » It’s Like the Golden Globes, Without the Cool Swag Bags on April 10th, 2007 at 10:40 am

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• Suburban Oblivion (4 comments.) on April 10th, 2007 at 11:20 am

  You gave me a lot to think about, I actually blogged on it just a bit ago. I figure every dog has its day, we just haven’t had ours yet

• Liz (10 comments.) on April 10th, 2007 at 12:31 pm

  I question awards, myself - especially, if my blog happens to make the list - and I agree with all of the comments made here. I felt compelled to blog about the recognition - mom blogs get such a bum wrap, these days - but, was very careful to admit that these type of blogging awards should be taken with a grain of salt.

  You rock, Elizabeth and that’s what keeps me coming back and I suspect many of your faithful readers, as well! Allow me to repeat myself:

  “Don’t let my feeble attempts at appearing humble and smart, fool you - I am a bumbling idiot - but, I take great pride in knowing that my blog has made such a list and that, at the end of the day, I can close my laptop and look forward to getting through another day of surprising the living crap out of those around me, including myself!”

  You see, I was just as surprised as you were - besides, you get waaaaay more comments, than I do!

  Voting for you, anyway ;o)

• Sarah (In the Trenches of Mommyhood) (1 comments.) on April 10th, 2007 at 1:39 pm

  I know what you mean. I equate it to not sitting at the “Cool Kids” table in the cafeteria. I feel like I’m not quite that savvy (or have enough time) to be “in” on what’s happening in the Mommy Blogosphere and sometimes, in an odd sort of way, I feel all “left out” or “left behind.”
  But still I love writing on my blog. And that’s what’s most important.

• Glennia (2 comments.) on April 10th, 2007 at 4:04 pm

  I was actually shocked to read that you haven’t gotten any awards. I think you rock. If I knew how to make a badge, I’d send you one. Alas, my tech skills are seriously lacking, so I just ordered “HTML for Dummies.”

  I was sorta secretly hoping to be nominated for best travel blog on the Bloggy Choice Awards, then realized that my current post has a picture of Sanjaya Malakar and so I have probably been disqualified for lack of talent. Plus, those serious travel bloggers don’t have to lug around fifty pounds of kid-gear in their winsome knapsacks like I do.

  Off now to vote for you!

• cherann (1 comments.) on April 10th, 2007 at 5:01 pm

  That was intelligently written. I think I’ll vote for you. Good luck.

• DSB (1 comments.) on April 10th, 2007 at 8:23 pm

  I came here via Suburban Oblivian, and must say that your post really hit a note with me. I’m never on ANY lists, either. In fact, I have been blogging for a little over five years now, and I still rarely get more than 40 hits on my page.

  That’s okay, though. It’s kind of cool to be obscure. It’s my home on the internet, and I have way more fun on it than I should! I read a lot of ‘popular’ blogs, but I really do prefer the smaller, sort of undiscovered, obscure ones because those authors tend to interact more with their commenters and return visits, etc.

  And who can really define what’s best? The masses? (as many of the nominees for these ‘awards’ seem to be chosen) I know the nominated sites deserve some recognition, but as for what I truly like in a blog? It’ll probably never be found on a blog awards nomination list.

  BTW, good luck to you

• CPA Mom (5 comments.) on April 11th, 2007 at 10:33 am

  If I may repeat the above, and the obvious, I think you are an excellent blogger and an excellent human being and I’d nominate you for every award there is, if I knew how. I don’t get all these awards anyway. Seems like homecoming queen voting all over again. I even got one (Thinking Blogger) and I still don’t get it. I blog for me and me alone though.

• crunchy (5 comments.) on April 11th, 2007 at 10:55 am

  I think there needs to be awards for introvert bloggers…the one’s who don’t put themselves out there, who don’t join in the thinking blogs, or blogs of the month, etc……

  the shy one’s.

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• cagey (3 comments.) on April 12th, 2007 at 10:23 am

  Okay, you rock. You totally rock for writing the post I was too chickenshit to write myself.

  Often, the blogosphere feels like an extended version of high school and frankly, all the “lists” perpetuate that feeling for me. I will always be a D-list blogger and I am okay with that (it has its advantages, since i don’t have to watch my mouth). However, once in awhile, the teenager in me from the 80s rears her head (with the shellacked bangs, of course) and thinks it would be nice to get recognition. LOL

• pz5wjj/mimi (268 comments.) on April 12th, 2007 at 1:45 pm

  I voted for you!

  And you are right. There are sooo many good blogs out there and soooo many good communities…

  Everyone deserves and award!

• Lisa (27 comments.) on April 13th, 2007 at 12:25 pm

  Congrats on your nomination! I don’t ever get nominated either.

• fairly odd mother (8 comments.) on April 14th, 2007 at 6:21 am

  I’m a relatively new blogger, plus I’m not a “real” writer in the sense of my occupation, training or even in my heart of hearts. Still, there is always that ‘pang’ that occurs at the start of the month when awards are “passed out”. It seems silly to me that I should let it bother me, but you have expressed those feelings beautifully in this post. And, btw, that nomination is well deserved!

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