EDITED TO ADD: PLEASE READ THIS POST-http://table4five.net/2008/07/01/an-open-letter-of-apology-to-sweetney/ I have apologized for writing this post without knowing all the information, and without thinking first, and breaking my own rule because I didn’t say very nice things myself, did I?
PEOPLE. Am I going to have to write yet ANOTHER post about how mommybloggers need to SUPPORT and encourage each other, instead of tearing each other down? Yes, apparently so. I just found out that a blogger who I haven’t met personally but who has never been anything but kind and caring both on her own blog and to everyone I know she has ever interacted with was publicly attacked on Twitter. She was accused of “stealing” someone else’s blog alias, of just “copying” other bloggers. And although I missed it when it happened on Twitter, the person who made this ridiculous accusations on Twitter is supposedly an “A LIST” blogger. Which, what the heck ever, you know?
I am just spitting mad about this, because the blogger who had this happen to her is one of the truly nicest people I have ever encountered on the blogosphere. I’m talking about someone who absolutely LOVES her readers and does everything she can to make her blog a place that is friendly and welcoming to everyone.
She gives out cute awards to her readers, is generous with linking to others,and has created a popular series on her blog called “Fight the Frump” in which she shows hilarious photos of fashion disasters, often with her own head Photoshopped on to the bodies of people who really should have checked the mirror before going out. She also started an online magazine with a bunch of other terrific bloggers that gives great tips for maintaining your house, great things to do with your kids, and more. This is a blogger who CARES, my friends.
This is a blogger who follows MY “Golden Rule of Blogging” (but is NOT COPYING ME)-she only uses her blogging powers for good, NEVER for evil. I don’t know who this “A LIST” blogger is who posted this vicious bunch of lies on Twitter about her, but when I do find out, I am going to make sure to cut every tie I might have to that person online somewhere, as soon as possible. I am not interested in making the blogosphere a WORSE place to be, and either is my beautiful, kind, caring, loving blog friend, MRS FUSSYPANTS.
She wrote a post about it, tried to make light of the situation, but I know she is hurting. Wouldn’t you be? She even said in a tweet that this was a blogger she “adored”. She even made a badge for “Fussy Haters” to post so they can just come right out and admit who they are. I say let’s show Mrs. Fussypants how much we DON’T hate her in any definition of the word. If you are a fan of Mrs. Fussypants, feel free to grab the badge at the end of this (right-click, save as) and post it yourself.
I don’t expect that every blogger will love every other blogger, that’s statistically impossible. But my gods, if you don’t care for someone’s blog, then DON’T READ THE DARN THING. If you just can’t resist bashing another blogger to your friends, that’s what CHAT is for. Heck, on MSN Messenger or Gmail Chat or Yahoo or whatever, you can bash people all you want to your own friends. But don’t use Twitter to cut someone down, because that is just MEAN. Whomever this “A LIST” blogger is, I can’t believe it didn’t occur to them that Mrs. Fussypants would SEE that tweet. But you know why she is a BETTER PERSON than this supposed “A LISTER”? Because she didn’t even give out the person’s name in her blog post. She didn’t turn around and publicly attack someone else.
Mrs. Fussypants, I think you are the bee’s knees, darlin. I am in awe of your ability to attract readers because of your sense of humor, your kindness, your willingness to help anyone who asks, and the love you spread through your blogs. I remade your badge to let you know what I think:
EDITED TO ADD: PLEASE READ THIS POST-http://table4five.net/2008/07/01/an-open-letter-of-apology-to-sweetney/ I have apologized for writing this post without knowing all the information, and without thinking first, and breaking my own rule because I didn’t say very nice things myself, did I?
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You go sister! Rock on. I too am a huge fan of Mrs Fussypants and agree 100% with everything you’ve said. I just started blogging for her over at Blissfully Domestic and I am over the moon to have the chance to work with her. Yes, let’s spread the good, not the bad. I am linking to this post and doing one of my own.
Great post.
PS-Told you a was a “blog lurker”
What in the world???????????
This is HORRIBLE!
Shame on the haters!
Well said! Fussy is kind, genuine and the real-deal. And this isn’t junior high. If you don’t like someone’s blog, don’t bash them. Stop reading! No one is forcing you to read certain blogs.
Let’s grow up, please.
Elizabeth, I am so humbled. Thank you my sweet friend.
Love, Alli
That is horrible! I am astonished that grown woman would act in such a childish hurtful way, regardless of the perceived circumstances. Good job for taking a stand!
What is the matter with people? That is awful. I hope she knows to ignore them.
I’ve never been to her blog before, but now I WILL BE. I have had this happen to me as well, not on twitter but other avenues, such an A-List blogger should feel ashamed for acting like a child, and what a nice way to have people want to not bother with your blog or ventures as well.
Miss Fussy Pants, you will be added to my blogroll now… Keep your head up, and ignore it, people like that hate to be ignored.
Good grief, people need to mellow out…
As a (somewhat new) I think sometimes bloggers have too much time on their hands. When they obsess over other people’s blogs (like the critic), I’m sure of it! The great thing about blogging is that it is individual – to each her own. The back and forth over who said what about whom is one of the things that leaves bloggers open to the “high school” criticism/ that lessens our credibility.
I am glad you are sticking up for our friend Mrs. Fussypants. Ali RAWKS and so do you.
Here are the comments in question…
http://twitter.com/sweetney/statuses/845303243
http://twitter.com/sweetney/statuses/845304455
Opinion is one thing. I thought this was rather deliberately nasty. I’ve never heard of the blogger in question so don’t know if she’s known for this.
The comments were uncalled for, people definitely need to be more considerate.
I know from personal experience that “ignore the trolls” is easier said than done. Some people just feed off of being mean…I don’t quite get it.
Hi Elizabeth,
What can I say?
The Blogger Sphere is split into 3 parts; Social bloggers, info bloggers, and marketers (webmasters). Each of these parts are also split in 2, nice people and pigs.
What am I? I am a marketer (I like to think a nice one) I use the name Estartit because it is a Keyword on one of my sites, and using it gives me an anchored link to my site (that’s my take).
What do I give Elizabeth in return? Well, I read her posts, I leave a comment (not just 1 or 2 words of spam), and I add to the debate. Some other marketers choose to abuse the situation and spam peoples sites, something I would never do.
Elizabeth, I would say, is a social blogger and uses her blog to document her life; she has built up a readership because she writes in a witty and charming way.
This other woman has built up a readership by causing scandal and controversy. Lets face it scandal and gossip sells, look at the magazines and newspapers.
Elizabeth gives, the other woman takes. The problem is she is taking peoples reputations, feelings and happiness, and shredding them for other people’s amusement.
I know this is a long winded answer, but I had to say something, I see this everyday in what I do and I know it has upset Elizabeth and here friend.
The way I see it, as people, all we can do is choose what side of the fence we want to be on, givers or takers, nice or horrible, and be happy that we chose to be nice.
All the best, take care
Estartit (John)
Thats horrible!! I can’t beleive people are so mean!! People can be so jealous of others and it just eats them up inside, the only relief they can get is to lash out at that person.
This infuriates me.
It saddens me that all the BS drama that I had to deal with in high school and college that I thought I would be done with once I entered the adult world would be gone. Sadly, its not the case.
Just ridiculous. Fussy is great. People need to realize that words hurt, and incorrect statements hurt more.
According to Twitter they kissed & made up.
Now let’s all have a great big group hug !
I think this is a major issue with Twitter. When I write a post on my blog that is “out there” in terms of saying something about somebody else, it is like I get a tight feeling around my rib cage. By the time I finish writing the post, I know two things – I need to publish it a couple of days in the future to give myself time to re-think it, and that if I do end up publishing it, I have to be prepared to cop the flak that comes along with it. Like my recent do not upgrade to wordpress 2.6 post – I had strong feelings on the subject and when you have strong feelings like that you usually know that not everyone else is going to share them exactly the same, and they might have a go at you for expressing your strong feelings.
With twitter, it is instant – you don’t have a lot of room (140 characters or so I am told, I’ve never used it) and in a situation like that you run the risk of saying something offhand that you might regret later.
I will say that the name thing is something I thought of long before I began blogging, and therefore my name is highly unusual. Except in Norway, where it means Avalanche.
Anyway, I was just catching up on some reading and links led me here so I thought I’d say hi, long time no comment, sorry it’s been a bit insane in my world but I am still here and still reading..