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Have you ever heard the saying “People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime”? It’s something people say especially when someone has passed on or when a relationship ends. Another saying I’ve heard is “Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.”
In our lives, there are always people who leave their mark on us. Whatever kind of mark they leave, whether they are good or bad, these people seem to affect our lives in one way or another. People come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes, it could be that they are here to help us solve a problem or they are here to teach us a lesson. People come into our lives for a season. These are people who stay with us only for a length of time and then for some reason, they leave. They either pass away or our relationship with this person just falls apart. This is not necessarily a bad thing. This person has already fulfilled their purpose and it’s time for them to move on. Some people come into our lives for a lifetime. These are the people who grow with us and continue to inspire us and make our lives more interesting.
I’ve had friends throughout my life that came, and went, some for a year or two, some longer. It’s always hard to realize that you’ve grown apart from a friend. It happened to me a lot more often when I was younger. I had “best friends” whose friendship lasted a school year or two, but I’m still grateful that they were in my life, because I learned something new about myself with each friendship. Now that I’m older, I think I’m better at choosing friends that might not share all my interests, but that have enough in common with me to provide regular friendship.
Regardless of how long people stay in our lives, it’s not uncommon for us to question why they were in our lives in the first place. My friendships when I was younger would fall into the “for a reason” category I suppose, since they did teach me lessons on how to be a better friend. Have you ever had someone come into your life and then leave it, whether “for a reason” or “for a season”? I’m curious to know if anyone else has had a similar experience. Leave me a comment!
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Twitter: mjtam
says:
Gosh, I never really looked at it that way, and maybe that’s how I should look at things. I hate disconnecting with friends. I always feel like I did something wrong. Once a friend, always a friend. So it’s hard for me to understand why others don’t see me in the same light sometimes.
I appreciate your argumentation on this topic of friendship and presence of people in our lives, but I’m convinced that after death we will certainly meet with those people who have “left footprints on our hearts”!
Having served in the Military for 26 years, I know what it means to build friendships and then become disconnected. I can’t count the numbers, I would would safely say in the thousands.
Fortunately for us Retired, Reserve and Active Duty Military folks, there are many ways to find each other once again with the use of the internet!
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Twitter: debmomof3
says:
I do have people who’ve come and gone in my life – and I often think about whatever happened to them… I like this way of thinking about it though – not quite so sad to have lost touch.
Yes, totally! I’ve read about this theory on more than one occasion – and it ironically affected me differently each time.
I was in college the first time I heard this and thought it was deep and profound but only had my growing up relationships to use for comparison. I had a very close friend at the time that I viewed would be one of those lifetime type – how little do we know. She went all ‘fatal attraction’ on me and I got in my first ‘girl fight’ trying to extricate this person from my life.
The next time I heard this I was newly married and prayed that my husband wasn’t one of the “for a season” examples – considering I’ve known him since middle school I felt confident that I picked the ‘creme of the crop’. So far so good – we’ve been married for almost 14 years and have known each other for over 2/3 of our lives.
The last time I heard this I was at a small low point in my life. As a family, we had just relocated from California to Georgia and I was feeling lonely and scared. Our son was having a very rough adjustment (I don’t recommend moving your son in the middle of his final year of elementary school). I don’t open up easily which makes making friends tough. Reading this reminded me how some of the people I left in California were/are seasonal friends – and ever so important to me. One dear friend has outlasted our miles apart and become the dearest of lifetime friends that I know I can call anytime for anything.
So this topic is something I hold dear to my heart – realizing that everyone is in your life for a purpose as you are in theirs. I strive to be the best friend I can be to the people around me and appreciate everyone around me – whether they are in my life for a day, year or forever. I cherish them all!
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Twitter: cleht fracases
says:
I think that you should concieve the fact that some people leave your life calmly, because it is done by the God for your happiness. Who knows, it maybe that a person which you miss now would become a traitor!
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Twitter: asghar_paracha
says:
why dont we think that this is a part of our life?
I was thinking once about this what You’ve written, I agree with all that You say!:-)
Twitter: nathandrach
says:
Great post… Every once in a while I think of friends that I do not have anymore. At some point we just have to learn and move on.
Yup. Bad friendships/relationships, and super awesome ones. With the former, you realize what you do and don’t want and all that, with the latter, it’s nice to get it right.
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Twitter: mack
says:
This is an excellent topic you are discussing about and i really appreciate it. It should be going on.
Regards,
hotelomania
Life is always changing, the reality is often very painful, but good friends will always be in heart, although he or she has gone away from us, but do not ever forget it. I prefer the old saying: “lost one – to grow a thousand”.
best regards
Baros
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