Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining. Or Something.

Chris and I got into an argument this morning,  and he said something that made me realize that my life needs to change. I’ve been a stay at home Mom for 13 years, and at the beginning, I was doing a great job. I kept the house clean, the bills paid, the groceries bought, the meals cooked. He did his fair share, but staying home meant that not only did we not have to pay all but $50 of my weekly paycheck for full-time daycare, but that I could also help keep our home life running smoothly.

For the first seven years, I was pretty happy with how things were going. I liked knowing that people could drop by and I wouldn’t have to cringe with embarrassment over the state of the house. I liked that our bills were always paid on time and that we didn’t have to eat out unless we wanted to, because there was food in the fridge and cupboards and a basic menu plan to go with it.

For a year and a half, starting when the boys were three and five, Chris went on a TDY (Temporary Duty Year) and only came home every other weekend. He was traveling to GM sites upgrading their computer systems while I was at home raising the boys. It was my sole responsibility to see to all of their needs, do all the housework, the laundry, the shopping, everything. And I did it.

We moved a few months before I was due with Kaitlyn, settling into our current house in June of 2005.  I started Table for Five in September of 2005, and got so completely caught up in the world of blogging and being online in general that being a stay at home Mom became secondary.  When I started blogging professionally (meaning, taking on paid blogging assignments) in 2007, the truth is, I stopped being the person mainly responsible for the house and the bills and the groceries, because I had work to do.

Chris was very understanding and supportive at first. I was contributing financially which was really helping us out, and he willingly took on extra work around the house. He would come home from work and cook dinner, do the laundry, give Kaitlyn her baths, whatever needed to be done. And I got more and more stressed out about the state of the house while simultaneously insisting that I just had “one more post to write” or “a few more emails to answer”.

You never expect dumb arguments where both parties say hurtful things out of anger to actually result in something good, but in the case of this morning, that’s exactly what happened. Because as Chris was telling me that he was completely overwhelmed with all his responsibilities, I was realizing that I had all but given up on taking any kind of pride in having a clean house, paid up bills, the food necessary to feed everyone every day.  Chris is completely happy and willing to do his share, but I’ve been putting more and more on him, and that’s just not fair.

There is nothing old-fashioned about homekeeping. When my house is clean, I am less stressed, plain and simple. So instead of bitching about how stressed out I am because the house is so damn messy, I’ve decided to look at it from the other angle. I have the power to do something about it. I can decide that of all the hours I have in the day, I can in fact devote some of them to housework instead of letting it pile up until the weekend and then screeching at everyone about it.

I can choose once again to be a housewife, which simply means a married woman who manages her household.  And that’s exactly what I intend to do.  I’m also going to start redirecting MomReviews and MomCooks here, because it has become too difficult for me to maintain three separate blogs.  You’ll be seeing food-related posts, product reviews, and giveaways. Yes, I know I said I wasn’t going to do those here anymore, but I was wrong. For the sake of my mental health, I have to stop dividing myself into thirds.

So what started as an argument became a realization that I can be a better wife and mother as well as a better blogger. It’s never pleasant to fight, but it’s nice when something good comes out of it.

Stranded at the airport – How the manager of the Detroit airport turned a bad situation into a customer service win

I have so much to tell you about my trip to Atlanta for Conversations with Coca-Cola, but first I have got to tell you about my experience at the Detroit airport last night.  My flight from Atlanta to Detroit on Delta airlines went completely smoothly.  I was then supposed to be on a 7:30 p.m. flight to Lansing, a trip that takes, and I am not kidding, twenty minutes.  Everyone boarded the plane, stowed their bags, fastened their seat belts, and then pulled out a magazine or their kindle or went to sleep or whatever.  I was reading People and minding my own business until it occurred to me that we hadn’t even pushed back from the gate yet. I looked up to see two maintenance workers standing at the cockpit.  Yeah, that’s never a good sign.

Within a few minutes, the pilot was on the intercom telling us that our plane had a mechanical problem and they were going to have to take us off and put us on a different plane. The flight attendant then pointed out that there was another plane at a nearby gate, so we would just have to go back to the terminal and walk two gates over and get right back on the new plane.  Everyone got up and we all walked over to the new gate, sat down, and waited to start boarding.  And then it got all kinds of crazy.

The gate agent announced to us that our original flight crew had gone over their allotted hours and weren’t available to fly us now.  Delta was trying to find us a Greyhound BUS to drive us the 92 miles from Detroit airport to Lansing airport. She kept telling us to sit down and wait. People were getting angry. One man told her a bus was unacceptable and to get a manager. Someone else checked the next and only other flight to Lansing, it was full.  A supervisor showed up and seemed very angry at having to deal with the situation, which made everything tense. Passengers started muttering about bad customer service and why weren’t they telling us what they COULD do for us instead of what they couldn’t.  People started leaving to go rent cars to drive home, which I couldn’t do because I don’t have a credit card.

Finally a man showed up who we later learned was the manager of the entire airport, Leon Render. He took a count of how many people were left out of the original group (25) and told us he had called several bus companies as well as looked at flights on other airlines, and there was just nothing available.   He finally called Metro Cab and had them send six 5-passenger vans for us and all our luggage.  He then led us to a different part of the airport where there were ladies with computers,  flagged down an employee and had them go grab a beverage cart so we had drinks with ice and those bags of peanuts, pretzels and cookies.  It was a small gesture, but for people who had already waited over an hour and a half and were as stressed out as all of us were, it was a welcome refreshment.

He then pointed to six different people including me and asked us to step forward.  I was a little nervous about why I was being singled out, but guess what? He was picking what he called “captains”,   each of us would be the holder of the voucher to give to the cab driver for our van.   We were also all getting a $100 voucher for another Delta flight, which is what a ticket between Lansing and Detroit costs.  He said the gate agent should have done that right away. It was obvious that he was not thrilled at having to do what his employees are already trained and empowered to do, but it was a great relief to all of us passengers that he stepped up and did everything in his power to make it right.

Our original flight was supposed to leave at 7:30 pm. At 10:30 pm, Leon had finished having all of the $100 vouchers printed and got word that the Metro Cab vans had arrived. We all started walking to the ground transportation area when he realized that the passengers who had checked their bags still needed to go get them from baggage claim.  Since I had my bag, I went outside and lit a much-needed cigarette and waited. And waited. One of the cab drivers stowed my bags and invited me to sit in his van, and even loaned me his phone charger so I could keep in touch with Chris.  And we waited.

After almost an hour, the people who had went to baggage claim came back – without their bags. Apparently the bags had been taken off the broken plane but had not been put on a baggage carousel. In the interest of just getting he hell home, they decided to leave anyway and hope that Delta got the bags to Lansing on another flight. Everyone divided up into the vans. Before our van door closed, Leon came over and stuck out his hand. “Thank you, Mrs. Edwards”, he said to me. “Thank you Mr. G. and Mr. M.” (the two other people in my van).  And with that, we were finally on our way.

I want Delta and everyone at Detroit Metro Airport to know that thanks to Regional Elite Manager Leon Render, what started out as a nightmare turned into an example of the number one rule of customer service – don’t tell the customer what you can’t do, figure out what you can do and then DO THAT.  He took 25 angry and inconvenienced people and bent himself in half to get us home. We weren’t the only people in the airport, and we weren’t the only emergency he had to deal with that night. But he treated us like we were the most important people at that airport.  He could have said sorry folks, you’ll have to go to a motel and fly home tomorrow, but every one of the 25 of us had somewhere to be the next morning, and he got us home.

People were talking about calling Delta customer service to complain. One girl was talking about tweeting @DeltaAssist and bitching to them. But I decided to focus on the good that came out of it. Yes, the situation was handled badly at the beginning, but I’d be willing to bet that Leon had a staff meeting that next morning and there will be a review of what gate agents and supervisors CAN do to help stranded passengers. I decided to do what I’ve been doing since 2005 – use my blog for good and not for evil :)   So again, thank you to Mr. Leon Render and the Delta employees that assisted him in getting all of us home. Eventually.

 

 

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Happy Birthday To Me! Stop By For Some Cake.

Today is my 45th Birthday! Woo hoo! I’m so glad you stopped by, look! I have my very favorite cake in the whole world, German Chocolate!

 

There’s also a real one in the freezer to have for dinner tonight after we have one of my favorite meals, Cola Chicken with mashed potatoes and peas. Yum.

Kaitlyn has been sick for two days, not keeping anything down, and now she’s complaining about an earache. That’s why I’m up at 2:55 a.m., I was administering a dose of Children’s Tylenol and figured as long as I was up, I’d get my birthday post published. Hopefully she’ll let me sleep in a little in the morning, since I’m definitely not sending her to school.

Anyway, since you’re here, I hope you’ll leave a comment letting me know you stopped by! It’s been my tradition ever since my birthday in 2006 to put up a birthday post and ask my readers to leave at least as many comments as the number of my age. So that means I’m hoping to get 45 comments on this post!

All comments are welcome but could you spammers do me a favor and go someplace else today? I don’t feel like deleting spam on my birthday, especially when I have a sick kid, too. Consider it your gift to me on this momentous occasion :) Everybody else – thanks so much in advance for your comments! I’m going to get my butt to bed before I end up sleeping away my whole birthday.