Dear readers of MY blog Table for Five, I have to tell you something

It all started with Google Alerts.  I subscribe to an alert for “Table for Five”.   A couple of months ago, I got an alert for a post on “Table for Five Reviews and Giveaways”.

I clicked the link.

Sure enough, it took me to a  blog with that title, a blog started in January 2010 by a woman with three kids.  I thought to myself well, maybe she didn’t realize there’s already a blog called Table for Five.

So I emailed her.

I very politely pointed out that my blog is almost five years old, that I post reviews and giveaways, and that calling her blog the same name as mine would just confuse her readers.  I asked her to consider changing the name of her  blog.

She emailed me back and said NO.  No, she said, it’s too late to change the name (which, no it’s not), and besides she already had a Facebook page set up and she was so proud of herself for doing it, and she wasn’t going to change it. Period.

WELL THEN.

I got an email this morning from one of my RSS email subscribers.  When he got the email with my latest post, it reminded him that he was having trouble entering one of my giveaways because of a confusing requirement. He wanted to know what the requirement meant, because he’s never had trouble entering one of my giveaways before. You know where this is going, right?

IT WASN’T MY GIVEAWAY.

It was a giveaway on this other blog.  I had to reply to him and tell him he had the wrong Table for Five.

My regular readers know how hard I’ve worked to build the reputation of this blog.  I join social networks, I go to events, I pass out business cards. I comment on other blogs, I support the blogging community with my words every chance I get.  I introduce myself at events as “Elizabeth from Table for Five”.  I know it’s a cliche, but I think of Table for Five as MY BRAND.

And in a matter of months, someone else came along and well, stole it from me. Why did I never trademark the name? I guess I’ve always figured that since there’s a movie called Table for Five and a book called Table for Five, that I couldn’t trademark it.  No one was going to confuse a listing on Google for one of my blog posts for the movie or the book, so I didn’t think it was a problem.

But someone flat out using the name of my blog for their own, just adding “reviews and giveaways” to it? That’s a problem.

I’ve gone back and forth over what to do. I’ve sought advice from my closest blogging friends and  from my husband.  I’ve thought long and hard about YOU, my dear readers. And what I’ve decided is that all of you will be able to tell the difference between me and her.  I’ve also made another very important decision.

I’m not going to do reviews and giveaways on this blog any more.  Does that mean I’m giving in? Letting her win?  I guess so. But what I need right now is less stress, not more. If she wants to be the Table for Five reviews and giveaways blog, fine.  I”m going to be the bigger person here.

Let me show you something.

Blog Header

That is my blog header from around 2006. See the tagline? “A blog about my family, books, music, movies, TV and more”.  Starting today, Table for Five is going back to where it began – as a personal blog.  Reviews and giveaways will be exclusively on MomReviews.    Those of you who subscribed to this blog as part of a giveaway, I truly hope you will stick around.  I think I do okay as a blogger and I hope you’ll read what I have to say.

And to that other blogger, well, good luck to her.

In Case You Weren’t Sure, THIS Is A Mommyblog

What does it mean to be a Mommyblogger? When I started blogging in 2005, I was writing about being pregnant with my third child, and my two boys, and my life in general.  I found a small group of other Mom blogs that I really liked, I commented on their posts, they commented on my posts. They were my COMMUNITY.

And then on February 25, 2006, I decided to write about how much I loved Swiffer Sweepers in this post titled I Love Swiffer, Yes I Do. Why? Because cleaning my house was part of my life, and it seemed like a good topic for a post.  Never in my wildest dreams did I think that anyone representing Swiffer would read my post. Except, that’s exactly what happened.

A P.R. person representing Swiffer read my post and emailed me, saying that he liked my post, and he was getting the word out about a new redesigned Swiffer sweeper, and would I like to get one? And if I felt like it, would I write my opinion of it on my blog?  I was dumbstruck!  But I said sure, why not, and I got the swiffer, used it, took some pictures of it, and wrote a post about it.

That was the beginning of my “career” as a product reviewer.  Since then, I’ve developed relationships, yes actual relationships, with P.R. firms all across America.  These are real people whose jobs are to market products, who decided they liked the way I wrote and the way I expressed my opinions. We’ve talked on the phone, arranged to meet in person, sent each other Christmas cards. They know the names of my kids, I know the names of theirs.

So, let me ask you a question. And by “you”, I mean, those of you who come here and read this blog because you like the way I write. Those of you who are part of the TABLE FOR FIVE COMMUNITY.  Do you have a problem with me calling myself a Mommyblogger?  Is the fact that I review DVDs and other products and run occasional giveaways a problem for you? Do you ever feel like I am “tricking” you into reading a post?

This blog is going to change, evolve, and grow. As opportunities arise, I am going to take them if they seem like a good fit for this blog. When I get a product to review, I am never going to pretend that I bought the product myself. If I ever forget to tell you who exactly sent me the product, please ask me in the comments. If I write about going to a marketing event, and you want to know exactly what items I received from the company, ask me.

I have nothing to hide.

And also? I AM STILL A MOM. I do not think that I have to turn in my Mommyblogger card because I choose, on MY BLOG, that I PAY FOR, to write about products and run giveaways.  I am not SHILLING PRODUCTS. I am writing about MY LIFE.  And right now? My life is about helping companies market their products that appeal to Moms and kids.

But it’s also about potty training my daughter and watching my 12 year old son grow into a young man, and feeling my heart swell with pride when my 10 year old brings home a test with an A+ on it after all the struggles he’s had in school, and dealing with the stress my husband is under at work, and everything else that happens to me on a daily basis.

This is MY MOMMYBLOG. This is what it means, TO ME, to  be a Mom who blogs. And those of you who are regular readers, REAL readers, THANK YOU. Thank you SO MUCH for taking a few minutes out of your day to come here. If I had no advertisers and no products and no giveaways and no trips, I would still be here and I hope you would still come here too.